“Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.” (Anne Roiphe)
I don’t think anyone can get through this life without experiencing loss of some kind. Often, we associate loss with one of its most extreme examples – death. But there are many kinds of loss, such as: divorce, moving, breaking up, developing a chronic disability or health problem, and many more. How we respond to events like these have the potential to change our daily lives.
One of the hardest parts about experiencing loss is that often others don’t know how to respond to our grief. We don’t generally talk about it, and we’re probably not taught much about it growing up. That’s normal, but that doesn’t make it easier to bear. Loss hurts us, and those we love – and words often fail to capture the depth of its pain. But one way we can begin to ‘remake our lives’ in our new normal of a life that’s experienced loss, is to find support, and use tools to help us process it.
Mr. Rogers (from the children’s program, Mister Roger’s Neighborhood) said: “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’”
Loss can be something that’s incredibly frightening, and his nugget of truth is applicable to remaking our lives. When we’re faced with the fear and uncertainty of loss, we can look for those who are ready and willing to help us – and know that we can help others process their losses, because we can say, “I’ve been there.”
If you or someone you know has recently experienced a type of loss, there is an upcoming support group about processing grief. Living in Peace is a six week class led by Meaghan Heighway, LMHC. Each week is self contained, so people may attend as many or as few as they wish. This small group will be acknowledging and processing the phenomenon of grief, while helping the participants to learn how to live in peace. It will run on Wednesdays, April 11 through May 16, from 6:30 to 8 p.m., and held at 64 E. Main St., Springville (Love in the Name of Christ).
For more information, please call Meg’s office, at (716) 380-1750, but you are not required to sign up. Sessions are $15 per person, per week, and includes the class and materials. Also, you may check us out on Facebook @SpringvilleGriefClass, or on Meg’s website, at www.mhlmhc.com.